Showing posts with label mommi dearest. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mommi dearest. Show all posts

21 August 2009

Peacemaker in our family

Being an "old" couple already (14yrs+ n counting), I'd say Alan n I r so accustomed to each other that sometimes we stop being cordial to each other. That's not to say we shout or r rude to each other, but we talk to each other in a tone that we would only use on each other. It's not the polite tone u use on colleagues or strangers, not the respectful tone u use on parents or elders, not the friendly tone u use on friends. I call it a "comfy" tone that is used for my other half only. To others listening, it could sound rude. But to us, it's normal.  To Ashley, it sounds like we r quarrelling. And what does my little darling do to cool things off? She SINGS or SAY "AHHHHHH" very loudly to drown out our voices. Sometimes, Alan n I r so tickled by her "peace-making"efforts that we purposely ignore her n continue our conversation. And she gets so worked up that she'd bump up her volume. She may be little, but she's got my voice. Hah!

Shxx happens...

When shit happens at work (a.k.a "being backstabbed"), I'd like to think "how nice it'd be to just quit my job n be a SAHM?".

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But then, after 2secs (yep, tt's all it takes!), i'd tell myself again "yeah, sure... u'd go crazy in a week. max 2 weeks!"

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And so here I m, blogging abt it on a Friday afternoon, at 4pm...
I'm still thinking abt whether to rehash the whole episodes (yep, more than 1 in this week alone)... but nah... u never know who reads wat in cyberspace...

Bout time to knock off. Kekeke...

TGIF!!!!

V-cruise pics

Long overdue pics of my cruise.



16 August 2009

The 1st 36hrs... after putting on wired braces

Went rather well, if u ask me.

Other than the perpetual discomfort of hving metal brackets n wires in my mouth 24/7, the achy feeling in the teeth, the horrible feelings of hving food stuck in between the teeth, in between the wires, in between the teeth n wire, the need to rinse, brush and floss more often ( i average 3 brushings, 2 mouth-rinsing, 1 flossing per day), there's really nothing to it.


Ya, right! Who am i kidding?

Ai swee bo bian...


I m still counting down the days...


Gan-ba-teh!


The current tag-line for me these days is "Get used to it." Aptly said so, by my orthodontist when I went to see him last Friday as the wire-end kept poking the side of my mouth, causing it to bleed slightly. I told him to turn the wire inwards so that it's pointing towards my tooth. He said the wire is already vv short but he'd try. But his parting words to me was "After a few days, the skin will harden n you will GET USED TO IT."

Huhhuh!

13 August 2009

My wish.... revealed

I'd earlier blogged about taking steps to fulfilling my lifelong wish here.

Today, i've finally taken the next step. Haha... not a secret anymore, since anyone can see wat it is. Yep, my wish is to hv nice straight pearlies and today, i've finally put on braces.

HL and PY warned me it'll be vv painful during the 1st 2 days. I'm still keeping my fingers crossed that it won't be. >.<

The eating part is true though. At this specific point in time (not sure what'll happened in a few hrs' time), it doesn't hurt to eat, but i don't hv the strength to chew. At this rate, i'll probably lose a few kilos (doesn't hurt to hope rite?) :->

The funny thing is after my frens know that i'll be putting on braces, they tell me they don't see anything too wrong wif my teeth. Yeah, there are a couple of tooth which are not aligned properly, but it doesn't warrant putting on braces.

But the fact is, it's been bugging me for years n years. When i was young, my parents had no spare cash to let me wear braces. And even after i started working, in my 20s, i had the concerns that i'd need to do extraction (which i don't want), and more imptly, the social stigma of wearing braces.

Strangely, after i turned to my 30s, the stigma didn't bother me much. And i asked myself "Do you want to spend the next 30yrs wishing u'd plucked up the courage n got ur teeth fixed?" Or would you rather smile a pretty smile at yourself for the next 30yrs?"

Before I could change my mind again, i'd gotten off my butt and took action.

Now, i just hv to count down the days... hmmm.... another 550days???

7 August 2009

Cold Turkey for Ashley

I am not referring to the bird. I am talking abt subjecting Ashley to cold turkey treatment by banning her from pacifier-sucking.

It was our 1st visit at The Kids Dentist. During the initial Q&A where Dr Rashid wanted to find out more abt Ashley's history, habits, diet, etc, he'd confirmed that pacifier-sucking AFFECTs how the teeth are grown. "Some parents said it didn't hv any harmful effect on the way their children's teeth grew." - to this statement, Dr Rashid said it's not true. The most likely reason why it did not have any "so-called" harmful effect on the teeth development is bcos of the way the child sucks on the pacifier and the frequency of sucking.

Before checking on Ashley, he mentioned that he usually advises parents to stop their kids from pacifier-sucking latest by age 5, and that we shd also heed this advice. After checking on Ashley, he said Ashley's teeth development is rather badly affected by pacifier-sucking and we shd stop this asap. Hopefully after stopping, the teeth development will improve. He told me maybe it's not feasible to go cold turkey and would be better to set a deadline n allow the child to be mentally prepared for it.

Now that I know this, how can I still allow my Ashley to suck on pacifier? (internally, i likened this to allowing a person to smoke, while knowing smoking is harmfully). I couldn't do it the soft way, so I did it forcefully. I explained to Ashley many times over the day abt how her teeth would spoil if she continues to suck on pacifier (tt's the easiest explanation i could think of). Luckily, she understood and even though she put up a little fuss during naptime/bedtime, she still tearfully agreed not to have the pacifier. During the first few days, she would wake up a few times at nite and cry pitifully for pacifier (i call it "withdrawal symptoms"). But still i persisted.


We are now in week 2 of "pacifier-free" days, n it's mission accomplished... Phew!

22 July 2009

33 mths' milestones

Ashley is definitely developing into her own little person. What's my darling like?

Ashley is sweet. A couple of times, she quietly came up behind me and massage my shoulders and ask "Mommi, got pain pain?" ( i gather tt's bcos she's seen me asking Alan to massage my shoulders.)

Ashley is patient. Even the teachers at JG praised her for it. She waits patiently for her turns at doing craft activities, washing hands, playing at playground. And she sometimes even halts me when i tell her to go ahead. :-)

Ashley is cautious, but willing to try given lots of encouragement. I noticed this whenever she's faced with challenges that she's not confident of doing, such as climbing boards, obstacles activities. Initially, she needs me to guide her, but subsequently she grows confident enough to do it on her own. (P/S: I like that my Ashley isn't reckless to plunge headlong into new activities, but instead observes, n reacts with caution.)

Ashley is asserting her own independence. There are just so many incidents to cite - dressing/undressing herself, choosing which videos she want to watch, which clothes/shoes to wear, what activities she wants to do.

Ashley is obedient (to a certain extent :-P). Most times, she's cooperative enough and listens to me, especially when i raise my voice and let her know i m serious. This is clearly evident during mealtimes when i tell her she must eat all the different types of food i place on her plate, be it fish, meat, veggies, rice, noodles, etc... Alan and my mil both tell me Ashley doesn't eat wat they tell her to eat... hmmm... this leads me to the next characteristic.

Ashley is a smart little cookie. Like most kids, she knows how and to whom to play out her cards. She knows i don't accept nonsense with her and so, she doesn't really try out her luck with me. But when it's Alan or my mil or other pple, she can be rather naughty too.

Ashley is more sensible and independent. I still remember abt 4-5mths back when i started on my new job. There was a time when i had a conference call at 9pm, which is her bedtime. I told her daddi will sleep with her first while mommi work and when mommi's work is done, i'll go in n be with her. She made a real fuss and cried so badly until Alan got real upset too. In the end, i couldn't join in the teleconference call and had to pacify her. 5 mths later, now, when i tell her i need to work, she will nod her head and tell me "Mommi work work done come sleep with Ashley, ok?"

Hmmm... it sounds like my Ashley is an absolute angel all the time, doesn't it? Of course not, she's still very much a little child, with her tantrums, her playfulness, her cheekiness, her naivete. She still makes me angry at times, especially when she whines (and Alan told me i m really really fierce when i scold her). But that's the beauty of it, isn't it - raising a child, moulding a person's character. There will be good times and there will be bad times. I love it. I love my Ashley.

21 July 2009

My job

The good thing abt my job is the flexibility - can work from home when i want/need to. But it's really work, no time to even skive abit, sometimes work thru lunch too. haiz...


The bad thing abt my job is the "need" to work at nite - conference calls, rush to meet deadlines. No joke leh, my most recent record - working straight for 28hrs (in-between with only toilet and meal breaks n 1-time to go mil's plce to fetch Ashley home, desperately snoozed for 1-hr).  After the whole episode, i tell u, i was seeing stars in my head.

P/S: BMR wasn't that bad after all...

8 July 2009

My teacher?

Sometimes, the words that come out of my mouth does not match with the thought/thing in my mind. Funny though, that most of the time, it happens when i m with Ashley.  Hmmm...

Anywayyyyy....... my daughter then takes on the role of a teacher and corrects me on the spot. It makes her vv happy n she usually smiles cheekily at me after correcting me.

Me: Deardear, mommy take out your diaper for you (Ashley is not wearing diaper anymore, n in my mind i was thinking of panty)
Ashley: Noooo, it's panty.
Me: Oops, mommy forgot.


Me: Deardear, go sit on the chair (me pointing at the sofa)..
Ashley: Nooooo, it's sofa.
Me: Oh, ya hor... mommy forgot.


Me: Deardear, where is your handkerchief? (i was visualising a bath towel, n holding on to the handkerchief)
Ashley: There... (pointing to the handkerchief in my hand)
And before i can say "mommy forgot"
Ashley: Mommy forget.
Me: :-)

6 July 2009

Driving

It brings out the worst in me. Ordinarily, i m a polite n well-behaved person. But when i m behind the wheels, the "devi"l in me surfaces n i spew out expletives so often that if i start putting a dollar coin in the piggy bank for every expletive i said, i'd hv filled many many piggy banks in the last couple of years. Ok, tt being said, i still want to qualify that I still hv enough moral decency left :-P to not use those "most vulgar" of expletives.


And what do i do when Ashley repeated my words ( beat beat mummy for lacking the self-discipline to control my vocab when the little one is around )? I start using acronyms lor. Ingenious? Or Devious?

HAH!

30 June 2009

Family Day III

3rd stop: Fishing



Family Day II

2nd stop: Potting a plant




Family Day Part 1

Last Sunday, we went for a family day event (those who know me know that i m not usually into these events, but had no choice last week bcos the organiser was none other than Alan).

Anyway, we had really great fun there and i didn't regret going one bit.

We did alot of stuff that day and REALLY, since Ashley was born, that day was the longest time we were out (from 7.30am - 5pm)...

I observed alot of things about Ashley that day and I am really pleased with all of them. She's grown more gung-ho and open to new things like potting a plant, fishing, running on the grass, walking on muddy paths, walking along the goat farm (and keep telling me chou-chou while scrunging up her nose). I am so glad she enjoyed all these outdoor activities. I don't want her to be a "hothouse" flower.

Let the pics tell u the story instead.


1st stop: Bollywood Veggies Farm




8 June 2009

Awwwwsssssss.........

The moment I walked into the master bedroom n saw my clothes n towel laid out nicely on the bed, my heart melted...

Sometime between watching Barney n talking to me, Ashley went into the room, took out my clothes n laid it all nicely onto the bed, as she knows i need to bathe after cooking dinner.

Awwww........

And she did it all even without telling me, wanting to give me a surprise...

Double AWWWWssss..........

5 June 2009

My wish...

I've finally taken the 1st step towards fulfilling my life-long (almost!) wish...

4 June 2009

Compassion

I decided to make a donation to a little gal who's now battling stage 4 cancer in NUH. My heart cried as i read her story.

Initially, i'd asked Alan for his opinion. He told me to decide for myself, but commented tt it is becoming quite prevalent for pple to use the internet to further their causes, n some even took advantage of it n "profited" from the donations.

He's right to advise me to be cautious. I will.

Maybe if i weren't a mom, i wouldn't feel so much...

COMPASSION, tt's what makes all the difference.

P/S: Be strong, little one. i will be praying for ur speedy recovery...

3 June 2009

31mths' milestones

Motor skills
Amazed I am at Ashley's motor skills. She's learnt how to fully handle a bike now. Previously, she could cycle forward and when she hit a blockage, she'll get down the bike, turn it around n cycle back. But now, she knows how to make U-turns and manoeuvre the bike to avoid stuff tt's in her path. Needless to say, i'll be buying a bike n soon, u'll c us in ECP biking around.

The other noteworthy accomplishment is she's learnt to skip, so she'll skip along us while we walk.

27 May 2009

0R vs 0P

Wat m i toking abt? Clothes sizing, that's wat!

Who knows the right answer to this qn - wat does 0R and 0P represent?

I've been baffled for a couple of yrs since the 1st incident when i came across these 2 sizing for a pair of pants. Apparently, the sales staff at a few particular high-fashion houses in Orchard Road shd be flogged for not knowing their basics. They could only tell me "0P is smaller than 0R". Huh! I also know that by comparing them together. But wat does it represent?

Finally, finally, the sales staff at BR shed the light. Bravo! R for Regular and P for Petite.
Haiyah... i shd hv made the connection myself when i browse-shop online at US stores.

Now, i've finally found a really justified reason to shop online. I need Petite size clothes, and most US-brand fashion houses only bring in Regular size clothes, not Petite. And even if they do, it's few and far between. And this is especially true for pants/jeans whereby i always need to alter 1-2 inches off. Everyone who knows clothes knows that the cutting and look of the garment will be distorted when we do alteration. It's just tt most pple don't scrutinise others' dressing as much as i do. haha!

Am i giving myself another reason to shop online? You betcha!

P/S: I love the way i look when i wear my new pair of jeans.

PP/S: Alan, don't sigh... like what i told u last nite, it really can be cheaper (even after including shipping and taxes) when one knows how to shop online for clothes on sale. My new jeans is $30 cheaper than if i'd bgt locally (and i'd still hv to send in for alteration). Best of all, u dun nid to go shopping wif me. :-)

Shopping.... again

I have been buying so many clothes for Ashley lately, even i feel "pai-seh". How can 1 little girl wear so much clothes, not to mention it's only for weekends? Not that my girl runs around naked (hah!) on weekdays, but my mil has told me not to bring any clothes over for my girl as my sil has bgt more than enough clothes for Ashley.

As for me, haiz... i've busted the current closet compartment tt's used for storing Ashley's clothes, hv to add on the main compartment...

Alan must be shaking his head at this again. :-p But he's a wise man, he's learnt to keep his mouth shut... kekeke...

I feel like i'm turning into a shopaholic (and i didn't even need to watch the movie). :-)

20 May 2009

Honey honey honey

At $50 bucks for a small bottle of organic honey, it's not cheap. But when i think of the goodness it has to my Ashley, there's nothing to it. And it doubles up as a cough "cure" for my girl too.

Last round of cough, it worked on my girl as u can read it here. Just last week, Ashley was coughing again - phlegmy cough. On some days, my girl was coughing badly in the nite n i had to give her some warm water to sip to sooth her dry n itchy throat. No medicine, u say? Well, let's just say i try my best to avoid giving cough mixture. Anyway, wat happened was that my honey ran out (hmmm... tt sounded funny??), and i wasn't abt to substitute it with those sugar-laden honey sold at the supermarts, so i had to wait till weekend b4 popping down to my regular store for honey. And after just 2 days of taking honey, Ashley's cough was 90% better, no more phlegm n just occasional cough here n there. On the 3rd day, she was "cured" completely. :-)